Jimmie and I recently celebrated our 18th Anniversary. Everyone has an opinion of what a marriage is or should be. I want to share my opinion on what a marriage IS NOT.
First of all, marriage is not for selfish people. Seriously…I don’t mean selfish in a negative way. Some people are use to making all the decisions, having their own space, and being in total control. Sharing is a major component in marriage. Your spouse has an opinion; therefore, decisions are made together. Yours becomes ours and “own space” becomes limited. Total control…yea right.
Marriage is not for your “To Do List”. You can’t put a check mark by it and move on to the next thing on your list. If it doesn’t work out, get a divorce. Being married is not something you do, it’s who you become. Two lives joined together as one; which makes it new life. Think about it, until you get married, you have no idea what being a husband or wife is really like behind closed doors. Ladies, don’t believe Cinderella!
Marriage is not for kids! This can go two ways. Having kids does not guarantee marriage or sustain a healthy, successful one. Nonetheless, immature people are not the best candidates for marriage either. In my opinion, immature adults are still kids. Kids depend on others for support (food, shelter, clothing, healthcare, etc.). They also rely on others to make good choices for them. That’s what kids do. Immaturity is hazardous to a marriage because it tends to create unnecessary stress, struggle and long suffering.
Marriage is not for everyone; regardless of what society says. Some people will never get married and they’re okay with that (they should be). Many people marry for the wrong reasons and then hope for the best. Some kids unknowingly carry the burden of a failing marriage. When they grow up and leave, so does the marriage.
Look, marriage is not complicated. Really…it’s not.
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PRICELESS.
You are so right … marriage is not for immaturity nor is it for selfish people. I see in my marriage of 19, nearly 20 years, that both me and my husband have matured. Growing up the only girl of my mom’s and my husband is the baby boy of 10, we were both used to being catered to by our families and our wants were easy to obtain. In marriage, our wants and needs have to be prioritized in which we discovered as we communicated with each.
This article really reflects the true meaning of marriage and not all the cinderella stories I have read, over and over and over again …
Excellent!
Sheryl: I agree, wants and needs have to be prioritized and good communication is a must for a successful marriage. Thanks for checking out my new spot!
Marriage is also not for security. Many get into marriage relationships just for the reason only to end up disappointed and lonely. We all must be secure within our own minds rather than rely on someone else besides our Lord and Savior, of course. Anyway! Don’t get me to preachin!
I remember your writing very well and this is only the beginning. I’m looking forward to you later reciting your writings live on YouTube so all the world can see. Don’t forget to at least do the “Poor Man’s Copyright” first! ‘erbody ain’t saved!
Keep writing because you are imparting words of wisdom to those who read! Thanks for sharing.
love it!
Felecia: Thanks for your words of encouragement. I really appreciate your feedback.
I have been married for 15 years and Kristia I totally agree!! Marriage is another job. Both parties have to work hard to make it work.
Way to go Kristy!!!